Which solutions am I trying to force?
Which tactic haven’t I tried? Surely, there is one!
Reading, tarot, videos, journaling, and evening meditations. All in the hopes something is going to help me understand, make sense of this.
When timelines of withdrawal reach two weeks, I can still pretend there might be hope, but once reaching 22 days, there’s a question arising: how do I continue moving my life forward?
This break is actually a gift to me, for it is allowing me to get clear on what I want in a partnership and what I am willing to give. I certainly have moments of intense anger and passing sadness, but I cannot make anyone change to be who I’d like them to be.
There is a certain amount of acceptance we give one another in relationship; that is healthy.
Do you find yourself ruminating on the “why” and what that must mean about you?
Today, I came across an excellent video on the topic of triggers and the “power of ignoring” by Rob Dial. In the video, he shares some amazing insight, like asking ourselves why something affected us so deeply and to be curious about why we are getting triggered (my coach calls it “activated,” a term I love). That it’s not about what happened or their words, but the meaning we assign to what has been said or how the person is responding.
When we frantically scroll looking for answers or spend hours trying to figure it out, that, too, is a form of self-abandonment.
It’s telling ourselves: I cannot hold space for how I am feeling, so instead, I will fill in the gaps rationally.
Today, the love gift I want to encourage in us is that of making room for our feelings.
When you feel like running, stop and breathe. Literally. Give yourself a few moments to feel what comes up and see how it passes just by your giving permission.
Practice noticing your mind; befriend what arises.
