Women, it’s time we start listening to ourselves.
Do you continually find yourself thinking you are asking too much or if you could just be a little more patient, this relationship would work?
Maybe it wasn’t meant to.
I took a risk by moving to give this relationship a chance and found it to be an Illusion.
I remember a friend telling me she would never do that again, “move for a man.”
There’s a lot of good in those words…and perhaps some pain.
Why do women move states — continents, even — for someone unwilling to do the same for her?
This is where we have to look at ourselves with kindness and ask the uncomfortable questions.
Why did I do this? (not to spiral, just ask with curiosity)
What benefit was there, for me?
What, within me, “hoped” anything would be better here?
It’s okay to recognize what comes up. There may be anger; anger that you gave up a life that was gaining traction. Or sadness; that who you thought this person was had zero to do with reality.
My new mantra has become, I believe deeds, not words.
Listen to the still voice within you asking for your attention. Does something feel off? Are things not adding up?
It is good to self-reflect when a relationship has two partners who want repair, but when it comes at the expense of your peace for someone unwilling to meet you?
We are the ones who make the judgement call for ourselves. No one can tell you when you have had enough or when the epiphany will come that this just wasn’t meant to be.
We all have a choice. In every moment.
If you are in that place of discomfort with knowing something feels off but unable or unwilling right now to admit, it is okay.
Use this time to learn yourself and be kind to the person you find.
